Mixed Couples
As we were walking down the street - Moon, junior and I, with me holding junior’s hand - we presented the sight of a perfect family. We had picked up three year old junior, who is actually Moon’s cousin, from kindergarten and were waiting until her sister would get off work and take custody of him. The sight of us - foreigner guy, Chinese girl and a kid - attracted all types of looks ranging from surreptitious glances to giggling stares, and at one point a couple of excited street merchants gave the kid a free baloon as soon as they caught sight of us. The fact that the child’s appearance was completely Chinese rather than mixed blood seemed to throw in some confusion and at one time a shopseller, giving change to Moon, kept glancing at me and junior from the corner of her eye; back and forth, back and forth flickered her gaze, as if trying to judge whether or not there is blood relation between the two of us.
In the big cities, in which foreigners can be found, mixed couples are not a rare sight. The interesting point in my eyes is not what’s there, but rather what’s not there - nearly all of these mixed couples consist of a foreigner guy with a Chinese girl. Since as far as I could tell the Chinese (both men and women) find western women attractive, the only conclusion left to me is that western girls don’t like Chinese guys. How such a large gap between male-female and female-male preferences could exist seems odd to me.
fiLi
January 19th, 2007 at 3:58 pm
Yeah, I think every foreigner wonders about that at some point, even though you and I know a few examples for western women (/teachers) who married Chinese/Taiwanese men. Come to think of it - I believe that in most of those women I know did prefer to return to their home countries with their husband and not stay in Asia.
Anyways, I recall a recall a funny article that’s indirectly related to the issue - http://lunaticwisdom.com/blog1/2006/11/19/why-caucasian-men-are-treated-like-alpha-males-in-china/
Here’s to your mixed couple success - cheers, mate!
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vera46
January 19th, 2007 at 4:00 pm
A similar thing goes for Japan. Two suggestions for Japan and a general one are below.
1.Japanese women are attracted to foreigners more than Japanese men are attracted to foreign girls. They are attracted to them, but still tend to think that Japanese are better.
2. The guys being are less initiative than the Western guys in general, and even less initiative (not to say scared) when it comes to foreign girls. Some people actually compliment Yosuke for his courage(!!!) when they hear about me, or see me. I don’t know whether it’s true for China, however.
3. Could it be that Western men simply travel to Eastern Asia more (and for longer terms) than Western women do?
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Liron
January 20th, 2007 at 4:07 pm
I was more convinced with fiLi’s idea- that women (western or asain) prefer to live in their home country wheres the men are more mobile. In that case we’ll find Chinese men all over the world married to western women- who wants to do the statistics?
Since I haven’t been to China or to Japan and I don’t know the how the people are in either of these countries, I’m just speculating. Maybe because that’s what I would prefer….
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vera46
January 22nd, 2007 at 7:15 pm
Yes. I also like fiLi’s idea (read after posting mine), but I still think it’s the combination of them
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Ori
January 29th, 2007 at 7:46 pm
As to guys travelling to asia more - that might be the case but the ratio is not overwhelming towards the boy. Quite a few of the westerners you see are girls, and if they are there as a “couple” you can almost bet that the guy would be a westerner too. There are exceptions and I’ve seen some of them myself, but I think that’s all they are - exceptions…
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yifati
January 24th, 2007 at 4:54 am
I think that in the Chinese case it has alot to do with Chinese guys, in general I think that they are much less appealing than Chinese girls (personally, when we Ori and I were in China acouple of years ago I think I saw maybe 2 or 3 guys that I liked while we saw plenty of girls that we thought were pretty….)
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